Some people’s jobs are set up so they are paid on performance. Telesales for example, that is usually commission-based. So I’m guessing it’s a good thing that the people at Business Connect in Swansea aren’t paid that way. I made an appointment recently for today to see a business representative. It was like something from a Police Academy film. Throw in the Chuckle Brothers and you’ll have some idea of how arse-backwards they were. The meeting wasn’t booked in properly so my advisor wasn’t there. I asked could I see anyone else…yeah but nobody told me that setting up another appointment was like planning a space shuttle launch. I’m pretty happy being bald but at that moment I wanted hair just to rip out. I ended up being sent to their people In Port Talbot to try and squeeze some some sense out of them.
While I was queuing up I was standing next to these 2 women who were moaning about men. Well if you’re going to bitch in public then people are going to listen. Anyway the gist of it was woman A was telling B that A was having no luck finding and holding on to men. I’ve got to say she seemed pretty nice but A went on to say as soon as men find out she’s got 2 kids they back off and don’t contact her. She said she obviously does not regret having children but “why do men run a mile when they find out I’ve got children??”.
Seriously, do you women really think that? OK some guys don’t want the responsibility of their own kids never mind someone else’s. But to think we’re all like it? Sorry but that’s horseshit. Yes I have a child of my own but I’ve loved kids for years, especially babies and toddlers (when they get old enough to know their legal rights, that’s when I used to get suspicious of them). So much so that my mate Louise used to love it when I’d come down to see her in the mid/late 90s – her now 14 year old son was a handful back then and I used to enjoy taking him to town to get him out of her hair. Hell when he was a baby that’s how I learned to change a nappy.
Seeing a woman who has children does make things different but not impossible. I understand if a guy finds the thought of telling off someone else’s child a bit uncomfortable (I agree with that) but FFS man up and do what needs to be done. A single parent is someone who comes with a package, NOT baggage. Are these guys’ own lives so perfect and untainted that they expect a woman to accept them for all that they are? Children are not a barrier or a problem – they’re a part of life which can help you grow up and develop responsibility.
